1.) KNOW WHAT WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE “WORK” FOR YOU
In the interview Elisabeth and I share that the real reasons why people seek our support is because their life “isn’t working for them.” Elisabeth shares that because of this state of discontent and “unhappiness” their behaviors start to bubble up and manifest into behaviors that they don’t like such as anxiety, compulsive eating, feeling irritable, etc. Therefore, principal or rule number one towards becoming an empowered woman is to know what it is that you DO want and start there. Ask yourself what will make your life feel like it’s going the way you want it to. Disclosure: things will never be “perfect,” but would you be okay with “on track.” Shift your mindset. Start there.
2.) BE STRATEGIC ABOUT WHAT YOU TAKE CONTROL OF FIRST
I’ve had to turn away several clients from working with me because although they wanted to lose weight (and that’s okay) what they really want is to be able to have control over their life and the one thing that appears to be most feasible is weight loss. But in most cases, their finances need more attention and/or their emotional well-being. This is why I ask so many questions during the consultation because I want my clients to succeed. I’m honest and I know that true, sustained weight loss is not easy. I can break it down for you and hold your hand through the process as your coach, but if you are still in pain from a lingering divorce, are struggling to make ends meet and/ or are struggling in other critical areas of your life I’m going to suggest that you take a different approach. You can work on these areas simultaneously – yes, that is very possible and I can help you with that. But sometimes, it may just mean that you take a step back and you be a little more strategic about what you take control of first. Think long term, okay?
3.) CHOOSE WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS
There’s nothing wrong with being “emotional,” or having thoughts of wanting more. I love how Elisabeth shares in the interview (below) that all that matters is what we choose to do with those thoughts and feelings. We can choose to channel that energy and help keep us motivated OR we can also choose to practice deep breathing to calm the sympathetic nervous system and keep us from making something bigger than it is in our own head. The key takeaway here is that you need to feel every single emotion and question your thoughts. What’s really behind them? What are they trying to tell you? OR, is it just biology? Is it really your sympathetic nervous system that is getting too much attention?
4.) CHALLENGE THE LABELS
Okay, c’mon, how many times have you been called a “BITCH?” I love how Elisabeth challenged the label of “bitch” and has re-defined it. Her definition is:
B – Bold
I – Intelligent
T – Tenacious
C – Courageous
H – Heartfelt
According to Elisabeth’s definition, YES, I’m a BITCH
5.) FIND YOUR TRIBE
I can’t stress this one enough. Create a tribe for yourself that consists of therapists, coaches, and friends that lift you up vs. tear you down. Read books that will help you become who you really want to become. Get help. Don’t try to go at this alone.
NOW, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? START TODAY – WHAT WILL YOUR HEALTHY LIFESTYLE LOOK LIKE?
With love, health and happiness,
Brenda V. Sillas, MBA, CHES, INHC